Wednesday, 13 March 2013

Inheritance Dilemma

I guess I must have been a reasonable daughter-in-law because my MIL left me a bequest in her will.  She left me an antique French ring, a choice of another piece from her jewellery and some money, just for me!

I've chosen my other piece of jewellery; I chose a string of pearls.  I know they are not terribly fashionable at the moment, but I like pearls, I will wear them (I have already) and I will pass them on to daughter when she's older, maybe on her wedding day, as is traditional.

Now, my dilemma is what to do with the money.

I'd like to buy something long lasting and memorable rather than the patio furniture we want this year, repairing the spare bedroom window or indulging in one of these:
Hubby has said he would like to buy a picture with some of his money, maybe commission a local artist to do a picture of Izzy, so I don't want a piece of art as well.  I don't want to buy another piece of jewellery as I've already got two of  MIL's pieces.

A friend of mine had a very good suggestion of Life Membership of National Trust, but that costs £1800 which is more than I've got.  I think I will give a tithe to charity, but what to do with the rest?

Any suggestions?


Anonymous said...

It sounds that you're somewhat surprised that she left money just for you. I feel like that means that you need to do something just for you with it. Or at least a portion of it. If you're like most mamas, most of the things you get might be partly for you, but are also kind of for your husband and child.
I agree with it needing to be something that will be a lasting reminder of your mother-in-law as well. Try to think of something you have always wanted but never been able to afford. Even if the thing itself won't last forever, the memory of how you were able to finally get it will.
Just my 2 cents. Let us know what you decide--I hate cliff-hanger stories!

Claire said...

What about getting some garden art/sculpture? You could possibly get a bespoke piece made by a blacksmith?

Anonymous said...

Oooo.... go on treat yourself to the Kitchen Aid. She would surely want you to use it for something that brings you pleasure - your cakes always look stunning, also you would be sharing the pleasure, who doesn't love cake? Finally, it will last you forever and you will get to leave it to the lovely Izzy in your will!! I think life is too short to procrastinate and sometimes it is good to be frivolous. Be kind to yourself sometimes xxx

Beryl Ament said...

Do you have a corner in your garden for a tree or two with some kind of a seat to make a meditation site? A comfortable, shady place to read and remember your mother-in-law and others who are in your thoughts.

Expat mum said...

Spend it on your patio furniture or your mixer. (I have one and love it, BTW). That's what she wanted you to do. x

Helen L Conway said...

No good advice really as I have the sane dilemma with the inheritance I got from my Granny. However, I can say that I do not regret buying the kutchen aid with other money and that I wear pearls frequently!

Sarah said...

What happened to my comment? I suggested that you buy a Thermomix, the ultimate kitchen aid, and one that all modern French brides-to-be are putting on their wedding list (apparently).

Linda Metcalf said...

I have always wanted a Kitchenaid and I'd probably treat myself in your case...they last a long time don't they? :)

Anonymous said...

Something just for you I reckon! Something you've always had your eye on as a bit of an extravagance you wouldn't normally buy.

CJ x

Catharine Withenay said...

I'm with CJ - something for yourself. You'd like the Kitchenaid, I'm sure, but if not that then something that would be a treat for you. And enjoy it!!

ADDY said...

Somthing lasting to remind you of MIL. Something silver maybe or a tree to plant in the garden or, as someone else said, a statue/ornament/bench for the garden. The remainder for a pampered weekend in a spa!

Working Mum said...

Anonymous - you're right, I've been thinking of things for my family rather than me; it seems so alien to think of something just for me.

Claire - that's an idea, I like unusual sculpture/garden ornaments. Thank you.

Anonymous - I love your reasoning! I'm leaning toward the KitchenAid now. Especially as hubby said to me "you could get one of thoese mixers you want".

Beryl - I don't think our garden is big enough for that, but it's a lovely thought. Someone has already given us a garden voucher to buy a tree or shrub to remind us of MIL so I will definitely do that.

Expat Mum - thank you,I will keep thinking that she gave me the money for me to buy whatever I want, I keep forgetting that.

Helen - We can discuss our dilema at our chocolate course next month. I'd like to hear what you do with your inheritance. Glad to hear your a fellow pearl wearer!

Sarah - so sorry, I didn't know the comment was from you and there were so many mentions of the product I thought it was spam and deleted it!

Linda - I hadn't thought of the longevity aspect of a KitchenAid. I'm coming round to the idea.

Crystal - I've spent the last 8 years paying for child care and school fees that I haven't allowed myself to want anything except the camera I bought in the month between childminder and school fees when I had some spare cash. I need to think about coveting some stuff!

Catharine - that's the problem, thinking of something for me. Nice problem to have though.

Addy - Someone has given us a garden voucher to buy a tree/shrub so that's covered. Something silver makes me think of a silver canteen of cutlery, which I have wanted in the past (I picked out a design I liked years ago, but have never plunged for a set). I'd forgotten that. Food for thought.

Maggie May said...

I was going to suggest a tree or a special seat in the garden.
I guess she just wanted you to treat yourself to something that you really wanted. So go ahead. She knew you loved cooking get the gadget.
Maggie x

Nuts in May