Sunday, 29 November 2009

My Martian does it again!

Three sets of reports still to write (by Tuesday), Christmas shopping not yet started, house is a tip and piles of washing now taking over the landing. Behind with everything after being sick last weekend.

So, what went through husband's mind when he was asked to go and help at the North of England trials today? (Bear in mind that he did his under 18's football yesterday morning and went to City yesterday afternoon)

Was it

a) I have family commitments - daughter has swimming lesson on Sunday morning which is my responsibility?
b) I have family commitments - my wife is overworked and needs help?
c) I have family commitments - Christmas is looming and isn't going to happen unless I help?

or

d) yes, I'll help with the football!

No prizes for guessing which it was; it's tragically too easy.

Sigh.

9 comments:

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

oh yes sigh, sigh sigh....Why are we always surprised...could we try never having any expectation so that they come up smelling of roses? But why the eff should we??

Does anyone offer to mop floors, clean bathrooms,change beds, cook, clean, work, oh stuff it, its a waste of time...I just aint gonna expect nuffink anymore... poor you, poor us!

Larry announced yesterday that xmas is cancelled....he is so consistent...the humbug has enetered the building!

Working Mum said...

Oh FFF, you sound even more fed up than me about the 'men doing what they want and never mind anyone else' thing. I have got my own back by cooking up three different meals for in the week and leaving all the dishes for when he gets back (dishes are his job)! But don't get me started on the fact that I may have to pull out of a concert because he's organised a football tour to Guernsey without thinking about a babysitter - I'm saving that for another post!

Kelloggsville said...

oh yes - it doesn't matter if you also go out to work, child and household responsibility falls on the woman : http://kelloggsville.blogspot.com/2009/06/who-put-me-in-charge.html

I get told (if I am lucky) when hubby is going away and I have to sort out the times he would have covered childcare. If we are both busy I have to sort of the shopping/washing/ironing etc. I think it's all to do with the "can only do one thing at once" thing - bloody convenient excuse. I would have been fuming if I were you,but what's the point it kicking up a stink right now: the argument would just take up more of the precious time you haven't got at the moment!!!! Save it for the "and another thing" moment in an argument when you have more time ! ;0)

Working Mum said...

Yes, I remember your "who put me in charge?" post. I also had this conversation with my mum today who said my dad was the same! But how can we change it? We can't behave like them; we can't just walk off and leave the kids home alone, or leave them with no clean clothes to wear or no food to eat, so we do it. Grrrrrrr!

rosiescribble said...

Mmmm. Not good. Hope he reads your blog post and rethinks his decision next time!

Suburbia said...

Hopeless! You need to be assertive!!!

Working Mum said...

Suburbia - assertive doesn't work; it just leads to argument because we both think we are right. What I need is a way to make him see that his family is more important than helping out other people. I'm just not clever enough to figure out how to do it, yet, but I will.

auntiegwen said...

Oh dear, I hope that living with 3 women will help my son see things from a female perspective, we shall see...

kestrel said...

That's why God made mothers stronger maybe not physically but able to multi task!!