Here's the thing: daughter has become contrary and ............. defiant!
It's a bit like the terrible twos, but worse. At least when it was the terrible twos, she couldn't help her behaviour and just needed guidance to find out what is acceptable.
Now she knows exactly what she's doing.
She will escalate the most innocent of situations into a full blown confrontation and I don't know how it happens!
However, here's the rub - she only does it to me. Not to husband. He thinks this is funny. As the person who has to look after her for most of the time, I don't! It's wearing me down.
But the worst is when she is deviously and cunningly defiant, almost passive aggressive:
I'll say "Time to go, put your boots on" and she'll put her shoes on.
I'll say "Let's tidy your room. I'll do the lego, you do the cars" and she says "I'll do the cars"
I'll say "Banana or satsuma?" and she'll say "Grapes"
What do I do?
Impose my will and escalate the situation?
Looking for advice and some understanding of the situation I asked my mum if I went through a similar stage to see if it is in the genes and how my mum dealt with it. She said that I was never as headstrong and defiant as daughter and I've got my work cut out with her!
Yeah, thanks, mum!
She also said, with some insight, that this behaviour has developed since daughter started school, and she suggests that as daughter is now seeing how other children behave, she is trying to see what she can get away with.